Posts Tagged ‘joy’

Last week, I went out for lunch with some colleagues. As we were returning back to work, there was a light breeze. When we were about to reach the entrance door, the breeze brought with it a faint fragrance. One of us stopped. She exclaimed, “Oh look, the lilacs are in bloom!” We all paused and took a moment to appreciate the glory of the beautiful mauve-coloured flowers and were mesmerized with the lovely smell.  Looking at our watches, we felt sad as we had to leave the blooming flora. Reluctantly, we walked back in to our work.

Angela said, “It is so sad that we have stopped noticing things. We miss out so many beauties and little joys because of that. My two year old daughter keeps stopping every other minute to notice tiny things that I seem to have left behind.”

It sounded absolutely true to all of us. The few moments spent in the company of those lilacs were a joy indeed which we were about to skip, just like we skip dozens of other such beautiful things every day.

Recently I received a beautiful poem that reflects the above sentiment. The wise and lovely person who shared it with me has a zest to live a meaningful life, which I appreciate and would like to emulate. I thank her for passing this poem on:

Slow Dance

By David L Weatherford
(Taken from www.davidlweatheford.com)

Have you ever watched kids on a merry-go-round,
or listened to rain slapping the ground?
Ever followed a butterfly’s erratic flight,
or gazed at the sun fading into the night?
You better slow down, don’t dance so fast,
time is short, the music won’t last.
Do you run through each day on the fly,
when you ask “How are you?”, do you hear the reply?
When the day is done, do you lie in your bed,
with the next hundred chores running through your head?

You better slow down, don’t dance so fast,
time is short, the music won’t last.
Ever told your child, we’ll do it tomorrow
and in your haste, not see his sorrow?
Ever lost touch, let a friendship die,
’cause you never had time to call and say hi?
You better slow down, don’t dance so fast,
time is short, the music won’t last.
When you run so fast to get somewhere,
you miss half the fun of getting there.
When you worry and hurry through your day,
it’s like an unopened gift thrown away.
Life isn’t a race, so take it slower,
hear the music before your song is over.
 ~ Nivedita Shori

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Being Successful

Children are taught that their goal in life is to become successful so that they can lead a happy and comfortable life. They are told that success means becoming a renowned professional, having a flourishing business or chains of businesses, earning lots of money, living a life of luxury and having a lot of people working for them. When they are little, their well-wishers wish for them to be this type of a well to-do, successful person later in life.

We have come across quite a few people who can be deemed ‘successful’ by the above standards. They seem to be having all that a person needs to live a luxurious and comfortable life. They have houses that are like mansions; they run high-profile industries or work at high-levels in organizations of repute; they have every possible convenience available to them; they take vacations whenever they feel like and to wherever they want. They appear to live a picture-perfect life. Truly successful! Happy and comfortable! Aren’t they? They seem so and much more. Well, actually, quite the contrary!

Often, we envy such people because we think they live a very successful life. Little do we realize that such people often make compromises to ‘look’ good. Outwardly, their lifestyle definitely looks appealing, but inwardly, the case is somewhat different. For want of time due to busy schedules, their families hardly share any feelings of bonding. Their houses are so huge that they end up being either only party-places or a vacant hollow where family members just have a spot somewhere within the walls.

They are all busy because they have to manage a lot of things all the time and therefore have no time for each other, nor for themselves to relax or pursue their inner passions. They wish to leave a good impression upon the people around them and for that, they have to be very conscious of every step they take, each move they make. It adds to the stress they are already in. As a result, they frequently spend sleepless nights thinking about how to avoid every single financial mistake as it could cost them a fortune. The outcome of all this tension is the wealth they earn, which now has to be protected and spent with care, so that it is not squandered away. Amidst all this, it must be awfully hard to feel comfortable and remain happy.

Happiness is not about sharing a joke on the phone or with a few guests. Happiness is when one feels light throughout the day and is finally able to sleep with a smile on one’s face, without any worries about ‘yesterday, today and tomorrow’. Happiness is when one has the time to have whole-hearted interactions with friends and family members. Wearing a mask of happiness while talking to business partners or colleagues is not happiness – it is just a part of one’s routine, an obligation in most cases! Happiness is also when one is able to enjoy the little things in life without having to worry about what others will think.

Being happy is a sign of being successful. Real success lies in being able to create a carefree life full of joy and satisfaction. When you feel enthusiastic about going to work, when you enjoy coming back home to your children or to your parents, when you feel like you have all the things that a person ‘needs’, regardless of what one ‘wants’, and when you go to bed feeling proud of everything that you have done during the day and finally feeling grateful to God for what has come to you – that is when you are truly successful.

We see the gleaming black windows in the mansions of the so-called successful people, but do not see the weariness and anxiety behind them; we see their sparkling cars, but miss the stress on the minds of people sitting inside it; we see their designer-wear clothes but fail to see the restless days and sleepless nights they spend in those clothes. Do you think these famous people are really successful?

Truly successful people are not necessarily famous in the eyes of the world. They are just happy. They are winners in their own eyes. They live according to themselves, not according to others. They are not blind followers of others’ definition of success. They dream of happiness and do things that make them happy. That is what being successful is all about.

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